Furthermore, the honor you show your parents will set a precedent for how your kids honor you. Since “what you feed is what will grow” stalking will likely nurture a fantasy of familiarity and romance in your own head, while it may never have even crossed the other person’s mind. There is a reason we call stalkers “creepy.” Your crush is not an object for you to drool over, nor do you have to know everything about them or always be around them.
Although it is not crucial to be good friends before you start dating, the better you know someone the, well, better. Although “to have fun” is not the purpose of dating, dating should be fun. Marriage will be one of the hardest things you do, so set a joyful precedent.
There will be differences, but they do not have to break the relationship. I mentioned it before, but it’s worth repeating: always pursue health.
Some people date for many years, others date for months, or even weeks. If you cannot do that, then you should not be dating: it is not fair to either of you.
Like any relationship, dating and marriage should not be put into a box. Remember, you are trying to figure out if the two of you are a marriageable match. Your relationship is not so important that you cannot enjoy yourselves! Do romantic things, do normal things, do things together, and do things with your friends!
Honor does not always mean doing exactly what they want, although it does many times. In this case, honoring your parents means valuing their opinions, advice, and rules.
Remember, more than likely they have dated at least once before.
But before anyone can get married they have to go through the process of getting to know a person and pursuing love for them (at least if you practice the Western tradition of pursuing marriage).
It’s also hard, excruciating, joyful, hurtful, and incredibly fulfilling — at least this is what married people tell me, and from watching them, I believe it.
Married people have the best dating advice since they have already done it!
My goal is to simply pass on, from one teen to another, some thoughts I have developed from my observations, personal experience, and advice from others.
Feel free to interact with those of the opposite gender.